{"id":3685,"date":"2026-01-21T21:38:45","date_gmt":"2026-01-21T21:38:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/vztahy.net\/?p=3685"},"modified":"2026-01-21T21:58:19","modified_gmt":"2026-01-21T21:58:19","slug":"zarlivost-ve-vztahu-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/vztahy.net\/?p=3685","title":{"rendered":"\u017d\u00e1rlivost ve vztahu"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

\u017d\u00e1rlivost ve vztahu<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mnoho lid\u00ed si mysl\u00ed to, \u017ee aby byl vztah v rovnov\u00e1ze, oba lid\u00e9 mus\u00ed zn\u00e1t a p\u0159ij\u00edmat tuto informaci a jinak v opa\u010dn\u00e9m p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b \u2013 jeden bude neust\u00e1le naru\u0161ovat hranice a proh\u00fdbat druh\u00e9ho.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Co je \u017e\u00e1rlivost<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Emoce, kter\u00e9 se projevuj\u00ed nezdrav\u00fdm lp\u011bn\u00edm na druh\u00e9 osob\u011b d\u00edky zv\u00fd\u0161en\u00e9mu strachu jej\u00ed ztr\u00e1ty. M\u016f\u017ee j\u00edt o emoce typu hn\u011bvu, m\u00e9n\u011bcennosti, deprese, sebel\u00edtosti, kter\u00fdmi \u010dlov\u011bk vyjad\u0159uje pocit vlastn\u00ed nedostate\u010dnosti v\u016f\u010di druh\u00e9mu.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nej\u010dast\u011bji b\u00fdvaj\u00ed takov\u00e9 my\u0161lenky spojeny s ot\u00e1zkou \u017e\u00e1rlivosti druh\u00e9ho \u010dlov\u011bka, kter\u00e1 t\u011b nutila odm\u00edtat tv\u00e9 p\u0159\u00e1tele a tv\u00fdch p\u0159\u00edtelky\u0148, pr\u00e1ci, komunikaci s rodinou a tak d\u00e1le.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A v\u017edy\u0165 skute\u010dn\u011b \u2013 projev \u017e\u00e1rlivosti mnoz\u00ed lid\u00e9 p\u0159irovn\u00e1vaj\u00ed k n\u00e1tlaku. V n\u011bkter\u00fdch p\u0159\u00edpadech \u2013 ano je to tak. Ale ne ve v\u0161ech.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Zd\u00e1 se, \u017ee \u017e\u00e1rlivec \u2013 \u201en\u00e1siln\u00edk\u201c \u00fato\u010d\u00ed na tv\u00e9 hranice, zlostn\u011b je naru\u0161uje, ale p\u0159itom jeho v\u00fdznamnost roste a zde se mluv\u00ed o tom, \u017ee hranice nelze naru\u0161ovat, v\u017edy\u0165 to zp\u016fsobuje sni\u017eov\u00e1n\u00ed v\u00fdznamnosti… Jak ve v\u00fdsledku sv\u00e1zat \u201en\u00e1siln\u00edka\u201c \u2013 \u017e\u00e1rlivce a v\u00fdznamnost, kter\u00e1 vyrostla?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Jestli\u017ee hovo\u0159\u00edme o tyranech, n\u00e1siln\u00edc\u00edch a narcisech pak mnoho lid\u00ed si mysl\u00ed, \u017ee tito lid\u00e9 jsou obda\u0159en\u00ed jakousi super silou, kter\u00e1 jim dovoluje d\u011blat jim v\u0161e to, co se jim zachce, obch\u00e1zej<\/strong>\u00edc<\/strong> jak\u00e9koli z\u00e1kony gravitace.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

V tom je i tv\u016fj probl\u00e9m \u2013 tob\u011b se zd\u00e1, \u017ee oni na tebe \u00fato\u010d\u00ed, i kdy\u017e hranice oni nenaru\u0161uj\u00ed. Odd\u011blen\u011b existuj\u00ed situace, kde ty s\u00e1m\/a jsi \u017e\u00e1rlil\/a na \u010dlov\u011bka st\u00e1vaj\u00edc se dot\u011brnou a dus\u00edc\u00ed bytost\u00ed. Ot\u00e1zka je jednoduch\u00e1 \u2013 v \u010dem je rozd\u00edl mezi \u010dlov\u011bkem, kter\u00fd vybudoval svoj\u00ed v\u00fdznamnost s pomoc\u00ed \u017e\u00e1rlivosti a \u010dlov\u011bkem, kter\u00fd ji pr\u00e1v\u011b te\u010f ztratil.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tv\u00e9 emoce \u2013 to jsou tv\u00e9 emoce a k tv\u00e9 v\u00fdznamnosti nemaj\u00ed \u017e\u00e1dn\u00fd vztah. V\u0161echno le\u017e\u00ed v hranic\u00edch \u2013 um\u00ed\u0161-li je uvid\u011bt, tak to znamen\u00e1, \u017ee m\u016f\u017ee\u0161 vyu\u017e\u00edt i \u017e\u00e1rlivost a vyt\u00ed ve sv\u016fj prosp\u011bch. Neum\u00ed\u0161-li pak bude\u0161 jednat v\u017edy nahodile a od toho pouze ztr\u00e1cet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nechce\u0161-li se u\u010dit \u2013 pak se rad\u011bji \u017e\u00e1rlivosti nedot\u00fdkej.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A co d\u011bl\u00e1 \u201en\u00e1siln\u00edk \u2013 \u017e\u00e1rlivec\u201c? On \u0159\u00edk\u00e1: \u201eCo to je za Jirku, kter\u00fd ti p\u00ed\u0161e \u2013 zablokuj ho\u201c. Projevuje-li chlap \u017e\u00e1rlivost? Projevuje. Mnoh\u00fdm \u017een\u00e1m se zd\u00e1, \u017ee chlap hrub\u011b naru\u0161uje jejich hranice, ale v odpov\u011b\u010f za\u010d\u00ednaj\u00ed objas\u0148ovat a ospravedl\u0148ovat se.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Objas\u0148ovat a ospravedl\u0148ovat se je mo\u017en\u00e9, kdy\u017e t\u011b nachytali v ciz\u00edm byt\u011b uprost\u0159ed noci. Takovou odpov\u011bd\u00ed \u017eena ukazuje, \u017ee pr\u00e1vo na jej\u00ed \u017eivot n\u00e1le\u017e\u00ed chlapovi a tak\u00e9 na prostranstv\u00ed, teritoria, kter\u00e1 se pova\u017euje za spole\u010dnou a na kterou chlap m\u00e1 vliv. Form\u00e1ln\u011b chlap nenaru\u0161uje hranice, i kdy\u017e ze strany to p\u0159esn\u011b tak m\u016f\u017ee vypadat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pokus se pochopit \u2013 ka\u017ed\u00e1 \u017eena m\u016f\u017ee chlapovi odpov\u011bd\u011bt a \u0159\u00edci, \u017ee se nezaj\u00edm\u00e1 o mu\u017ee, kter\u00fd p\u0159il\u00e9zaj\u00ed \u0159\u00eddit jej\u00ed \u017eivot. A co ve v\u00fdsledku ud\u011bl\u00e1 tyran \u2013 n\u00e1siln\u00edk? Nic.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

On bu\u010f m\u016f\u017ee odej\u00edt nebo se pokou\u0161et ukazovat v\u0161emi zp\u016fsoby svou antipatii ke kolegovi Jirkovi. Vid\u00ed\u0161 nakolik odpov\u011b\u010f \u017eeny zahrnuje tu \u017e\u00e1rlivost, kter\u00e1 p\u0159iv\u00e1d\u00ed k p\u00e1du jeho v\u00fdznamnosti? Chlap m\u016f\u017ee pot\u00e9 vyvol\u00e1vat z\u00e1chvaty vzteku, plakat, po\u017eadovat nebo prosit \u2013 v\u00fdsledek je pouze jeden. Od takov\u00e9 \u017e\u00e1rlivosti se bude v\u00fdznamnost velik\u00e9ho n\u00e1siln\u00edka a tyrana jenom sni\u017eovat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ale v p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b kdy se \u017eena za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 ospravedl\u0148ovat nebo vyjas\u0148ovat \u2013 pak form\u00e1ln\u011b ukazuje, \u017ee d\u011bl\u00e1 n\u011bco \u0161patn\u00e9ho na teritorii, kter\u00e1 pat\u0159\u00ed chlapovi. Jestli z po\u010d\u00e1tku pot\u0159ebnost ve vztahu s t\u00edm chlapem je velmi vysok\u00e1 a \u017eena se za\u010dne ha\u0161te\u0159it \u2013 chlap odejde, bu\u010f si jist\u00e1. A \u017eena za t\u00edm chlapem pob\u011b\u017e\u00ed, bude se ospravedl\u0148ovat a prosit, aby se zastavil, vr\u00e1til se a bude souhlasit se v\u0161emi podm\u00ednkami, jen aby se vyhnula takov\u00e9mu nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9mu rozv\u00ed\u0159en\u00ed situace.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

N\u00e1siln\u00edk se st\u00e1v\u00e1 takov\u00fdm pouze t\u00edm, \u017ee nijak nedr\u017e\u00ed svoj\u00ed ob\u011b\u0165 p\u0159i sob\u011b. On \u0159\u00edk\u00e1 podm\u00ednky se kter\u00fdmi ob\u011b\u0165 m\u016f\u017ee nesouhlasit, na co\u017e \u201en\u00e1siln\u00edk\u201c reaguje adekv\u00e1tn\u00ed lini\u00ed chov\u00e1n\u00ed. On se ot\u00e1\u010d\u00ed a odch\u00e1z\u00ed nemaj\u00edc ani mali\u010dk\u00e9ho p\u0159\u00e1n\u00ed p\u0159esv\u011bd\u010dovat \u010dlov\u011bka.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A d\u00edky tomu se oby\u010dejn\u00fd \u017e\u00e1rlivec st\u00e1v\u00e1 tyranem a n\u00e1siln\u00edkem. D\u00edky tomu, \u017ee on v\u016fbec \u017e\u00e1dn\u00fd n\u00e1tlak neprov\u00e1d\u00ed. Samotn\u00fd n\u00e1tlak je a\u017e druh\u00fdm krokem pot\u00e9 jak \u017e\u00e1rlivec postavil sv\u00e9 podm\u00ednky a druh\u00fd je odm\u00edtl. A za\u010d\u00ednaj\u00ed se pokusy p\u0159esv\u011bd\u010dit, n\u00e1tlak na l\u00edtost a tak d\u00e1le.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nevn\u00edmaj\u00ed chlapa \u2013 n\u00e1siln\u00edka jako agresora, ale naopak vid\u00ed v n\u011bm font\u00e1nu \u0161t\u011bst\u00ed. \u010casto popisujeme proces p\u0159i kter\u00e9m \u010dlov\u011bk zav\u00edr\u00e1 sv\u00e9 hranice od agresora. To se bude d\u00edt v\u017edy, pokud je \u010dlov\u011bk agresor, ale tento \u010dlov\u011bk <\/strong>nen\u00ed<\/strong> agresorem, a co v\u00edc on je velmi pot\u0159ebn\u00fd t\u00e9 \u017een\u011b a proto ona otev\u00edr\u00e1 st\u00e1le v\u00edce teritori<\/strong>i<\/strong>, kterou ustupuje chlapovi.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Opa\u010dn\u00e1 situace \u2013 chlap s p\u0159\u00edznaky n\u00e1siln\u00edka a tyrana, ale se z\u00e1vislost\u00ed. P\u0159est\u00e1v\u00e1 b\u00fdt velik\u00e1\u0161sk\u00fdm, sebev\u011bdom\u00fdm a siln\u00fdm \u2013 on se rozt\u00e9k\u00e1, st\u00e1vaj\u00edc se protivnou, mazlavou masou.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Takov\u00fd za za\u010d\u00e1tku vymezuje podm\u00ednky, z\u00edsk\u00e1v\u00e1 odm\u00edtnut\u00ed nebo vizualizaci hranic potenci\u00e1ln\u00ed ob\u011bti. Jeho napaden\u00ed odr\u00e1\u017eej\u00ed, ale z\u00e1vislost ob\u011bti je vysok\u00e1. A zejm\u00e9na kv\u016fli tomu se pokou\u0161\u00ed uklidnit, sebrat s\u00edly a uskute\u010dnit pokus o ultim\u00e1tum je\u0161t\u011b jednou. V takov\u00e9m obdob\u00ed za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 libovoln\u011b protla\u010dovat sv\u016fj \u00fahel pohledu \u2013 vstupuj\u00edc do prostoru, kterou \u201eob\u011b\u0165\u201c vyzna\u010dila jako zav\u0159enou.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A to je i naru\u0161en\u00edm hranic. Kdy\u017e t\u011b chlap nut\u00ed p\u0159estat se bavit s \u010dlov\u011bkem a ty p\u0159estane\u0161 \u2013 ty otev\u00edr\u00e1\u0161 tu \u010d\u00e1st hranic a d\u011bl\u00e1\u0161 ji spole\u010dnou. Kdy\u017e odm\u00edtne\u0161 a chlap za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 protla\u010dovat \u2013 ty bude\u0161 sv\u00fdm chov\u00e1n\u00edm ukazovat, \u017ee tak to nefunguje a chlap se pokou\u0161\u00ed partyz\u00e1nskou \u010dinnost\u00ed nebo cestou podvodu proniknout dovnit\u0159.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A pro\u010d protla\u010duje? U n\u011bj vznikaj\u00ed obavy, o kter\u00fdch se boj\u00ed \u0159\u00edct \u2013 mnoho rozm\u00fd\u0161l\u00ed o tom, jestli v\u016fbec stoj\u00ed za to mluvit o tom nebo to za to nestoj\u00ed. Sou\u010dasn\u011b se m\u011bn\u00ed jeho n\u00e1lada, za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 chodit s ura\u017een\u00fdm v\u00fdrazem, d\u00e1le o tom mluv\u00ed a setk\u00e1v\u00e1 se s odm\u00edtnut\u00edm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 o tom p\u0159em\u00fd\u0161let v\u00edce \u2013 pokou\u0161ej\u00edce se \u0159e\u0161it tuto ot\u00e1zku, ale p\u0159\u00edm\u00fd zp\u016fsob je uzav\u0159en a proto je pot\u0159eba to ud\u011blat pod poln\u00edmi cestami.. N\u00e1znaky, v\u00fdrazem ura\u017een\u00e9ho \u010dlov\u011bka, manipulacemi, pokusy zrcadlen\u00ed a tak d\u00e1le.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A to mluv\u00ed o tom, \u017ee \u010dlov\u011bk nem\u00e1 \u017e\u00e1dnou sebe\u00factu. A co by ud\u011blal \u010dlov\u011bk se sebe\u00factou v tomto p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b? Samoz\u0159ejm\u011b by ode\u0161el. Pro\u010d, jestli\u017ee si v\u00e1\u017e\u00ed s\u00e1m sebe, se nach\u00e1z\u00ed ve vztahu kde jsou hranice druh\u00e9ho uzav\u0159en\u00e9. M\u00edsto toho \u010dlov\u011bk za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 m\u00edt pochybnosti, oce\u0148ovat v\u00fdznamnost druh\u00e9ho \u010dlov\u011bka a vym\u00fd\u0161let si cesty jak realizovat sv\u00e9 pot\u0159eby pomoc\u00ed obejit\u00ed hranic druh\u00e9ho \u010dlov\u011bka.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u017d\u00e1rlivost ve vztahu Mnoho lid\u00ed si mysl\u00ed to, \u017ee aby byl vztah v rovnov\u00e1ze, oba lid\u00e9 mus\u00ed zn\u00e1t a p\u0159ij\u00edmat tuto informaci a jinak v opa\u010dn\u00e9m p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b \u2013 jeden bude neust\u00e1le naru\u0161ovat hranice a proh\u00fdbat druh\u00e9ho. Co je \u017e\u00e1rlivost Emoce, kter\u00e9 se projevuj\u00ed nezdrav\u00fdm lp\u011bn\u00edm na druh\u00e9 osob\u011b d\u00edky zv\u00fd\u0161en\u00e9mu strachu jej\u00ed ztr\u00e1ty. M\u016f\u017ee j\u00edt […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2846,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"zakra_page_container_layout":"customizer","zakra_page_sidebar_layout":"customizer","zakra_remove_content_margin":false,"zakra_sidebar":"customizer","zakra_transparent_header":"customizer","zakra_logo":0,"zakra_main_header_style":"default","zakra_menu_item_color":"","zakra_menu_item_hover_color":"","zakra_menu_item_active_color":"","zakra_menu_active_style":"","zakra_page_header":true,"footnotes":""},"categories":[48],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3685","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-jake-byvaji-zeny"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/vztahy.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3685","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/vztahy.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/vztahy.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vztahy.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vztahy.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=3685"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/vztahy.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3685\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3686,"href":"https:\/\/vztahy.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3685\/revisions\/3686"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vztahy.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/2846"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/vztahy.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=3685"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vztahy.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=3685"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/vztahy.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=3685"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}